12/7/2016, 7 Syawal 1437
DEFINITION
Morality is a character, behavior or temperament of spouse in household life that is based on Quran and Hadith.
Surat Al-'Aĥzāb (The Combined Forces), Chapter 33, Verse 21:
Sahih International
There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often.
Malay
Demi sesungguhnya, adalah bagi kamu pada diri Rasulullah itu contoh ikutan yang baik, iaitu bagi orang yang sentiasa mengharapkan (keredaan) Allah dan (balasan baik) hari akhirat, serta ia pula menyebut dan mengingati Allah banyak-banyak (dalam masa susah dan senang).
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Surat Ar-Rūm (The Romans), Chapter 30, Verse 21:
Sahih International
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.
Malay
Dan di antara tanda-tanda yang membuktikan kekuasaannya dan rahmatNya, bahawa Ia menciptakan untuk kamu (wahai kaum lelaki), isteri-isteri dari jenis kamu sendiri, supaya kamu bersenang hati dan hidup mesra dengannya, dan dijadikanNya di antara kamu (suami isteri) perasaan kasih sayang dan belas kasihan. Sesungguhnya yang demikian itu mengandungi keterangan-keterangan (yang menimbulkan kesedaran) bagi orang-orang yang berfikir.
Sahih International
O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.
Malay
Wahai orang-orang yang beriman, tidak halal bagi kamu mewarisi perempuan-perempuan dengan jalan paksaan, dan janganlah kamu menyakiti mereka (dengan menahan dan menyusahkan mereka) kerana kamu hendak mengambil balik sebahagian dari apa yang kamu telah berikan kepadanya, kecuali (apabila) mereka melakukan perbuatan keji yang nyata. Dan bergaulah kamu dengan mereka (isteri-isteri kamu itu) dengan cara yang baik. Kemudian jika kamu (merasai) benci kepada mereka (disebabkan tingkah-lakunya, janganlah kamu terburu-buru menceraikannya), kerana boleh jadi kamu bencikan sesuatu, sedang Allah hendak menjadikan pada apa yang kamu benci itu kebaikan yang banyak (untuk kamu).
CHARACTER OF A GOOD HUSBAND
- Devout.
- To carry out leadership as a husband.
- To show love and compassion.
- Socialize well.
- Responsible.
- Be open and tolerant.
- Adopt policies.
- Congress.
- To give a good example.
- Keeping secrets households.
Riwayat al-Tirmizi:
"Truly believing man of perfect faith are those whose behavior is good and gentle with his wife and children"
Malay
Sesungguhnya lelaki mukmin yang sempurna imannya
ialah mereka yang baik tingkahlakunya dan lemah lembut terhadap isteri dan
anak-anaknya.
CHARACTER OF A GOOD WIFE
- Devout
- To obey the husband.
- Self grooming for your husband.
- Loved and loving husband.
- Maintaining the dignity and property of the husband.
- Keeping secrets households.
- To carry out leadership as a wife.
- Getting the consent of the husband.
Riwayat al-Nasai
"Best of woman / wife is when you looked at her pleases you, and if you ask her in order for you, if you swear to it, she did good to you, and if you are not at home she takes care of herself and your possessions."
Malay
Sebaik-baik perempuan/ isteri ialah bila engkau menatap kepadanya menggembirakan hati engkau, dan bila engkau suruh dia mengikut perintah engkau, bila engkau bersumpah atasnya, dia berbuat baik terhadap engkau, dan bila engkau tiada di rumah dia menjaga dirinya dan harta engkau.
THINGS TO BE AVOIDED
- Raising a trivial problem.
- Ignoring spouse's feelings.
- Do not care about religion.
- Be impolite.
- Insulting the spouse or descent.
- Jealous
- Hurting the feeling of spouse.
EFFECTS OF GOOD CHARACTERS IN MARRIAGE
- Bringing tranquility and excellence.
- Create a happy family.
- Achieving excellence
EFFECTS OF BAD CHARACTERS IN MARRIAGE
- Always in anxiety.
- Families are turning disorder.
- Being in frustration.
- Failure in life.
STRATEGY TO BUILD GOOD CHARACTER
- Understand the purpose of life.
- Understanding the demands of Islam.
- Improve knowledge.
- Living the life by congregation.
- Improve worship.
- Improve weakness.
- Self reflection (evaluate ourselves)
- To practice good behaviors.
Surat 'Āli `Imrān (Family of Imran), Chapter 3, Verse 159:
Sahih International
So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].
Malay
Maka dengan sebab rahmat (yang melimpah-limpah) dari Allah (kepadamu wahai Muhammad), engkau telah bersikap lemah-lembut kepada mereka (sahabat-sahabat dan pengikutmu), dan kalaulah engkau bersikap kasar lagi keras hati, tentulah mereka lari dari kelilingmu. Oleh itu maafkanlah mereka (mengenai kesalahan yang mereka lakukan terhadapmu), dan pohonkanlah ampun bagi mereka, dan juga bermesyuaratlah dengan mereka dalam urusan (peperangan dan hal-hal keduniaan) itu. kemudian apabila engkau telah berazam (sesudah bermesyuarat, untuk membuat sesuatu) maka bertawakalah kepada Allah, sesungguhnya Allah Mengasihi orang-orang yang bertawakal kepadaNya.
Surat 'Āli `Imrān (Family of Imran), Chapter 3, Verse 110:
Sahih International
You are the best nation produced [as an example] for mankind. You enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and believe in Allah . If only the People of the Scripture had believed, it would have been better for them. Among them are believers, but most of them are defiantly disobedient.
Malay
Kamu (wahai umat Muhammad) adalah sebaik-baik umat yang dilahirkan bagi (faedah) umat manusia, (kerana) kamu menyuruh berbuat segala perkara yang baik dan melarang daripada segala perkara yang salah (buruk dan keji), serta kamu pula beriman kepada Allah (dengan sebenar-benar iman). Dan kalaulah Ahli Kitab (Yahudi dan Nasrani) itu beriman (sebagaimana yang semestinya), tentulah (iman) itu menjadi baik bagi mereka. (Tetapi) di antara mereka ada yang beriman dan kebanyakan mereka: orang-orang yang fasik.
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