Morals

12/7/2016, 7 Syawal 1437

DEFINITION

Morality is a character, behavior or temperament of spouse in household life that is based on Quran and Hadith.

Surat Al-'Aĥzāb (The Combined Forces), Chapter 33, Verse 21:

Sahih International

There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often.

Malay

Demi sesungguhnya, adalah bagi kamu pada diri Rasulullah itu contoh ikutan yang baik, iaitu bagi orang yang sentiasa mengharapkan (keredaan) Allah dan (balasan baik) hari akhirat, serta ia pula menyebut dan mengingati Allah banyak-banyak (dalam masa susah dan senang).

Surat Ar-Rūm (The Romans), Chapter 30, Verse 21:

Sahih International

And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.

Malay

Dan di antara tanda-tanda yang membuktikan kekuasaannya dan rahmatNya, bahawa Ia menciptakan untuk kamu (wahai kaum lelaki), isteri-isteri dari jenis kamu sendiri, supaya kamu bersenang hati dan hidup mesra dengannya, dan dijadikanNya di antara kamu (suami isteri) perasaan kasih sayang dan belas kasihan. Sesungguhnya yang demikian itu mengandungi keterangan-keterangan (yang menimbulkan kesedaran) bagi orang-orang yang berfikir.

Surat An-Nisā' (The Women), Chapter 4, Verse 19:

Sahih International

O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.

Malay

Wahai orang-orang yang beriman, tidak halal bagi kamu mewarisi perempuan-perempuan dengan jalan paksaan, dan janganlah kamu menyakiti mereka (dengan menahan dan menyusahkan mereka) kerana kamu hendak mengambil balik sebahagian dari apa yang kamu telah berikan kepadanya, kecuali (apabila) mereka melakukan perbuatan keji yang nyata. Dan bergaulah kamu dengan mereka (isteri-isteri kamu itu) dengan cara yang baik. Kemudian jika kamu (merasai) benci kepada mereka (disebabkan tingkah-lakunya, janganlah kamu terburu-buru menceraikannya), kerana boleh jadi kamu bencikan sesuatu, sedang Allah hendak menjadikan pada apa yang kamu benci itu kebaikan yang banyak (untuk kamu).

CHARACTER OF A GOOD HUSBAND

• Devout.
• To carry out leadership as a husband.
• To show love and compassion.
• Socialize well.
• Responsible.
• Be open and tolerant.
• Adopt policies.
• Congress.
• To give a good example.
• Keeping secrets households.

Riwayat al-Tirmizi:

"Truly believing man of perfect faith are those whose behavior is good and gentle with his wife and children"

Malay

Sesungguhnya lelaki mukmin yang sempurna imannya ialah mereka yang baik tingkahlakunya dan lemah lembut terhadap isteri dan anak-anaknya.

CHARACTER OF A GOOD WIFE

• Devout
• To obey the husband.
• Self grooming for your husband.
• Loved and loving husband.
• Maintaining the dignity and property of the husband.
• Keeping secrets households.
• To carry out leadership as a wife.
• Getting the consent of the husband.

Riwayat al-Nasai

"Best of woman / wife is when you looked at her pleases you, and if you ask her in order for you, if you swear to it, she did good to you, and if you are not at home she takes care of herself and your possessions."

Malay

Sebaik-baik perempuan/ isteri ialah bila engkau menatap kepadanya menggembirakan hati engkau, dan bila engkau suruh dia mengikut perintah engkau, bila engkau bersumpah atasnya, dia berbuat baik terhadap engkau, dan bila engkau tiada di rumah dia menjaga dirinya dan harta engkau.

THINGS TO BE AVOIDED

• Raising a trivial problem.
• Ignoring spouse's feelings.
• Do not care about religion.
• Be impolite.
• Insulting the spouse or descent.
• Jealous
• Hurting the feeling of spouse.

EFFECTS OF GOOD CHARACTERS IN MARRIAGE

• Bringing tranquility and excellence.
• Create a happy family.
• Achieving excellence

EFFECTS OF BAD CHARACTERS IN MARRIAGE

• Always in anxiety.
• Families are turning disorder.
• Being in frustration.
• Failure in life.

STRATEGY TO BUILD GOOD CHARACTER

• Understand the purpose of life.
• Understanding the demands of Islam.
• Improve knowledge.
• Living the life by congregation.
• Improve worship.
• Improve weakness.
• Self reflection (evaluate ourselves)
• To practice good behaviors.

Surat 'Āli `Imrān (Family of Imran), Chapter 3, Verse 159:

Sahih International

So by mercy from Allah , [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].

Malay

Maka dengan sebab rahmat (yang melimpah-limpah) dari Allah (kepadamu wahai Muhammad), engkau telah bersikap lemah-lembut kepada mereka (sahabat-sahabat dan pengikutmu), dan kalaulah engkau bersikap kasar lagi keras hati, tentulah mereka lari dari kelilingmu. Oleh itu maafkanlah mereka (mengenai kesalahan yang mereka lakukan terhadapmu), dan pohonkanlah ampun bagi mereka, dan juga bermesyuaratlah dengan mereka dalam urusan (peperangan dan hal-hal keduniaan) itu. kemudian apabila engkau telah berazam (sesudah bermesyuarat, untuk membuat sesuatu) maka bertawakalah kepada Allah, sesungguhnya Allah Mengasihi orang-orang yang bertawakal kepadaNya.

Surat 'Āli `Imrān (Family of Imran), Chapter 3, Verse 110:

Sahih International

You are the best nation produced [as an example] for mankind. You enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and believe in Allah . If only the People of the Scripture had believed, it would have been better for them. Among them are believers, but most of them are defiantly disobedient.

Malay

Kamu (wahai umat Muhammad) adalah sebaik-baik umat yang dilahirkan bagi (faedah) umat manusia, (kerana) kamu menyuruh berbuat segala perkara yang baik dan melarang daripada segala perkara yang salah (buruk dan keji), serta kamu pula beriman kepada Allah (dengan sebenar-benar iman). Dan kalaulah Ahli Kitab (Yahudi dan Nasrani) itu beriman (sebagaimana yang semestinya), tentulah (iman) itu menjadi baik bagi mereka. (Tetapi) di antara mereka ada yang beriman dan kebanyakan mereka: orang-orang yang fasik.

References:

1. Surat Al-'Aĥzāb (The Combined Forces), Quran.com

2. Surat Ar-Rūm (The Romans), Quran.com

3. Surat An-Nisā' (The Women), Quran.com

4. Surat 'Āli `Imrān (Family of Imran), Quran.com

5. Riwayat al-Tirmizi 

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   Riwayat al-Nasai

Pre Marital Course in Malaysia

12th July 2013, 7th Syawal 1437


Bismillah hir rahman nirraheem...

When I studying in Adelaide, I've been forced by my ex housemate, Aimi to attend a pre marital course. The course was organised by UMNO Adelaide. We have to pay $50 to attend the course.

It was very helpful, motivated and amazing. To me, if you firmly follow the guidance, your marriage will be fine. InsyaAllah. However, always bear in mind that the purpose of marriage is for the sake of Allah swt. If we love someone because of Allah swt, the love will never die.

I was so proud with the Department of Islamic Development Malaysia (JAKIM), that I told everyone that I met in Adelaide that I've just attended a pre marital course. We, the Malaysian muslims are obligated to attend the pre marital course and take HIV test before marriage. To keep safe our generation and make sure we and our partner are free from HIV as it may spread to others. There's no other country that I know, that legalise this requirement. Not even Indonesia, Brunei and Australia.

Recently, I've been asked by my Australian friend, sister Kate Day about the course. She is planning for her marriage, and want to know what have been taught during the course. So I google it, and found a link from JAKIM. But I need to translate it into English first. Here are the list of the course modul:

Part I
1. Morals
2. Marriage and Procedures
3. Worship
4. Beliefs

Part II
5. Health Management
6. Financial Management and Time
7. Relationships in the Family
8. Communication Spouse

Part III
9. Stress Management
10. Dissolution of Marriage

The list of course modul

References:

1. Rujukan Modul Pra Perkahwinan JAKIM, http://www.islam.my/rujukan-modul-pra-perkahwinan, updated: 16th May 2016.

Pre Marital Course in Malaysia

12/7/2016, 7th Syawal 1437


Bismillah hir rahman nirraheem...

When I studying in Adelaide, I've been forced by my ex housemate, Aimi to attend a pre marital course. The course was organised by UMNO Adelaide. We have to pay $50 to attend the course.

It was very helpful, motivated and amazing. To me, if you firmly follow the guidance, your marriage will be fine. InsyaAllah. However, always bear in mind that the purpose of marriage is for the sake of Allah swt. If we love someone because of Allah swt, the love will never die.

I was so proud with the Department of Islamic Development Malaysia (JAKIM), that I told everyone that I met in Adelaide that I've just attended a pre marital course. We, the Malaysian muslims are obligated to attend the pre marital course and take HIV test before marriage. To keep safe our generation and make sure we and our partner are free from HIV as it may spread to others. There's no other country that I know, that legalise this requirement. Not even Indonesia, Brunei and Australia.

Recently, I've been asked by my Australian friend, sister Kate Day about the course. She is planning for her marriage, and want to know what have been taught during the course. So I google it, and found a link from JAKIM. But I need to translate it into English first. Here are the list of the course modul:

Part I
1. Morals
2. Marriage and Procedures
3. Worship
4. Beliefs

Part II
5. Health Management
6. Financial Management and Time
7. Relationships in the Family
8. Communication Spouse

Part III
9. Stress Management
10. Dissolution of Marriage

The list of course modul

References:

1. Rujukan Modul Pra Perkahwinan JAKIM, http://www.islam.my/rujukan-modul-pra-perkahwinan, updated: 16th May 2016.

Mee Kari

Mee Kari

Bahan-bahan:

Bawang Besar - dikisar
Bawang Putih - dikisar
Buah Keras - dikisar
Rempah Kari Daging
Daun Kari
Bunga Lawang
Bunga Cengkih
Kulit Kayu Manis
Isi Kerang
Udang
Asam Keping
Hirisan Buah Tomato
Air
Santan
Minyak untuk menumis
Garam
Mee Kuning (dicelur)

Ulam-ulaman:

Taugeh
Sayur Sawi (dicelur)
Daun Sup
Daun Bawang
Cili Besar
Hirisan Limau Kasturi
Bawang Goreng
Fish Cake (direbus)
Fishball (direbus)
Telur (direbus)

Cara-cara:

1. Kisar Bawang Besar, Bawang Putih dan Buah Keras.
2. Rebus sedikit isi udang dan kulit udang. Kisar rebusan udang bersama isi kerang.
3. Panaskan minyak. Tumis bahan kisar sehingga naik bau.
4. Tumis serbuk kari dan daun kari sehingga masak. Masukkan bunga lawang, bunga cengkih dan kulit kayu manis.
5. Masukkan air rebusan udang, kerang, sedikit air dan asam keping.
6. Masukkan lebihan isi udang dan kerang. Apabila telah mendidih, masukkan santan.
7. Masukkan hirisan buah tomato. Perasakan dengan garam.
8. Hidangkan dengan mee kuning, ulam dan kuah kari.


Rujukan:

1. Azie Kitchen: Mee Kari, http://aziejaya.blogspot.my/2012/04/mee-kari-kerang.html, published 7th April 2012.

Apes in Quran

29/6/2016, 24 Ramadan 1437

Surat Al-Baqarah (The Cow), Chapter 2, Verse 65:

Sahih International

And you had already known about those who transgressed among you concerning the sabbath, and We said to them, "Be apes, despised."

Malay

Dan sesungguhnya kamu telah mengetahui (bagaimana buruknya akibat) orang-orang di antara kamu yang melanggar (larangan) pada hari Sabtu, lalu Kami berfirman kepada mereka: "Jadilah kamu kera yang hina".

Surat Al-Mā'idah (The Table Spread), Chapter 5, Verse 60:

Sahih International

Say, "Shall I inform you of [what is] worse than that as penalty from Allah ? [It is that of] those whom Allah has cursed and with whom He became angry and made of them apes and pigs and slaves of Taghut. Those are worse in position and further astray from the sound way."

Malay

Katakanlah: "Mahukah, aku khabarkan kepada kamu tentang yang lebih buruk balasannya di sisi Allah daripada yang demikian itu? Ialah orang-orang yang dilaknat oleh Allah dan dimurkaiNya, dan orang-orang yang dijadikan di antara mereka sebagai kera dan babi, dan penyembah Taghut. Mereka inilah yang lebih buruk kedudukannya dan yang lebih sesat dari jalan yang betul".

Surat Al-'A`rāf (The Heights), Chapter 7, Verse 166:

Sahih International

So when they were insolent about that which they had been forbidden, We said to them, "Be apes, despised."

Malay

Maka setelah mereka berlaku sombong takbur (tidak mengambil indah) kepada apa yang telah dilarang mereka melakukannya, Kami katakan kepada mereka: "Jadilah kamu kera yang hina".

References:

1. Surat Al-Baqarah (The Cow), Quran.com

2. Surat Al-Mā'idah (The Table Spread), Quran.com

3. Surat Al-'A`rāf (The Heights), Quran.com

Ahlus sunnah wal jamaah

24/6/2016, 19 Ramadan 1437

Surat An-Nisā' (The Women), Chapter 4, Verse 59:

Sahih International

O you who have believed, obey Allah and obey the Messenger and those in authority among you. And if you disagree over anything, refer it to Allah (Al-Quran) and the Messenger (Sunnah), if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. That is the best [way] and best in result.

Malay

Wahai orang-orang yang beriman, taatlah kamu kepada Allah dan taatlah kamu kepada Rasulullah dan kepada "Ulil-Amri" (orang-orang yang berkuasa) dari kalangan kamu. Kemudian jika kamu berbantah-bantah (berselisihan) dalam sesuatu perkara, maka hendaklah kamu mengembalikannya kepada (Kitab) Allah (Al-Quran) dan (Sunnah) RasulNya - jika kamu benar beriman kepada Allah dan hari akhirat. Yang demikian adalah lebih baik (bagi kamu), dan lebih elok pula kesudahannya.

References:

1. Surat An-Nisā' (The Women), Quran.com/4

Kebaikan di sebalik keburukan

24/06/2016, 19 Ramadan 1437

Surat Al-Baqarah (The Cow), Chapter 2, Verse 216:

Dr. Ghali

Prescribed for you is fighting, and you have a hatred for it; and it may be that you hate a thing, while (Literally: and) it is most charitable for you; and it may be that you love a thing while (Literally: and) it is evil for you; and Allah knows and you do not know.

Malay

Kamu diwajibkan berperang (untuk menentang pencerobohan) sedang peperangan itu ialah perkara yang kamu benci; dan boleh jadi kamu benci kepada sesuatu padahal ia baik bagi kamu, dan boleh jadi kamu suka kepada sesuatu padahal ia buruk bagi kamu. Dan (ingatlah), Allah jualah Yang mengetahui (semuanya itu), sedang kamu tidak mengetahuinya.

Surat An-Nisā' (The Women), Chapter 4, Verse 19:

Sahih International

O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.

Malay

Wahai orang-orang yang beriman, tidak halal bagi kamu mewarisi perempuan-perempuan dengan jalan paksaan, dan janganlah kamu menyakiti mereka (dengan menahan dan menyusahkan mereka) kerana kamu hendak mengambil balik sebahagian dari apa yang kamu telah berikan kepadanya, kecuali (apabila) mereka melakukan perbuatan keji yang nyata. Dan bergaulah kamu dengan mereka (isteri-isteri kamu itu) dengan cara yang baik. Kemudian jika kamu (merasai) benci kepada mereka (disebabkan tingkah-lakunya, janganlah kamu terburu-buru menceraikannya), kerana boleh jadi kamu bencikan sesuatu, sedang Allah hendak menjadikan pada apa yang kamu benci itu kebaikan yang banyak (untuk kamu).

References:

1. Quran.com, Surat Al-Baqarah (The Cow)
2. Quran.com, Surat An-Nisā' (The Women)